3 Ways to Prevent Overwhelm in Motherhood

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Mama, are you tired? Are you feeling like you just can’t do this another second? You’re scared to ask for help with the fear that you’ll look like a failure or maybe you have asked for help and people don’t really understand you.

You’re overwhelmed and don’t know how much more you can take.

Take comfort dear heart, my goal is to help give your soul rest and provide you with 3 ways you can press on when you just want to give up.

  1. Understand that overwhelm is a choice

    No doubt, motherhood is tough. There are good days but a whole lot of challenging days. Motherhood is ministry, and every ministry I have seen or been a part of is rewarding, yet laborious.

    That is where overwhelm can come in to play.

    When we see the big task at hand, or the unending pile of dishes, or the five mouths that have their mouths open wide like a nest of baby birds, or the laundry wars that seem to never end, or the frustration of walking on one more toy in the living room or crushed cheerio ground into the carpet.

    As challenging as those things can be, overwhelm is a state of being that we put ourselves in. But you can say, “No, I choose not to allow overwhelm to overtake me today.”

    “I instead choose to put my hope and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ because His strength is made perfect in my weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Mama, you don’t have what it takes to do this, you’re absolutely right. None of us do. But God does, and He wants you to cast your cares on Him, because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).

Your hope is not in your abilities. You can’t believe in yourself enough. You can’t read enough self-help books or motivational podcasts that tell you how amazing you are.

Your hope can only be found in Christ. We believe in His abilities and His awesomeness. You have a choice to believe in yourself or Christ as you strive in your motherhood. Which one will you put your trust in?

2. Understand a mother’s true work

Taking savage sinners and creating civil citizens who know God and make Him known is no easy feat. You can’t do it alone and were never expected to. The Lord waits for you to cry out to Him.

He will equip you and give you enough mercy and grace to fill your cup hour by hour and if necessary minute by minute.

Knowing and understanding your role is half of the battle. The world would have you believe mothers solely provide clothing, shelter, and food.

Make sure their children get a good education, and provide them with first world comforts of the newest gaming consoles, latest cell phones, dance and piano lessons, and the list goes on and on.

None of those things in and of themselves are bad. It’s only bad if they are the focus of your parenting. Because it’s so easy for those things to become a distraction to the one thing that is most needful.

That one thing is for your children to know their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. That is a mother’s true work. “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in the truth” (3 John 4).

When we understand our true work, it helps us push toward the goal even when we’re tired and don’t feel like we can make it another second.

It’s similar to running a marathon. When we see the goal and our eyes are on the prize something magical happens.

That magic is perseverance and endurance. They help us win the race that seems impossible to finish. Christ will give you what you need when you cry out to Him. Mama, cry out to Him and ask for perseverance to finish the work He’s given to you.

3. Understand God created you for this special time

Never again will there ever be another YOU. You have been created for a special time to live in a certain location and to care for a particular family.

No one else has your specific DNA make-up, gifts and talents, and the uniqueness that only you have.

Mama, you were created for this moment. The moment of raising little ones for the glory of God. You have been equipped and have everything you need to accomplish the task.

Your family needs you. I like to ask my mama friends, “If not you, then who?” Who is going to raise your children if you throw in the towel?

That question is not rhetorical. There is a real answer with real consequences when we think about it and flesh it out.

I have found that as long as we are doing what God has called us to we will prevent much overwhelm.

However, the moment we start taking on things outside of what God has called us to, or we start doing what everyone else wants us to do then overwhelm will start to creep in if we let it.

There is only one you. There will never be another. Therefore, “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time…” (Ephesians 5:15-16).

Make a commitment to be the best version of you as humanly possible during your short time here on earth. Cast aside negative thoughts and walk in God’s truth. Remember, never has there been another YOU on the face of the earth nor will there ever be.

Mama, this is YOUR time, make it count!

May you thrive in your motherhood and not let overwhelm rob you of another minute of the joy God has in store for you 💕.

For His glory,

~Tia